Archive for March, 2011

He Better Be Like That….:P, My Prerogative

Posted in Feelings on March 27, 2011 by altins

What does being a woman mean? Hmmm….

It means freedom.

Tight shirt, short skirt means fine.

Old jeans + worn out shirt, that’s ok.

Short skirt + biggest size of t-shirt, even better.

High heels, flat boots, sandals or even sneakers when you go out, it’s all up to me, babe.

But does it mean heavy make up? Nope, compact powder + lipgloss should be fine. Heck no….being a woman does not defined by whether you are wearing a make up or not.

It’s not even defined by whether you have a man or not.

You don’t define your happiness by what you have or what you don’t have, by what you are wearing or not you are wearing, by what your education title, by with whom you are friends with, not even defined by who your parents/brothers/sisters are.

You are who you are, and that’s enough.

Hanging out with my girlfriends on Saturday night, why not? Kinda missing my-girls-nite-out with my sista though. The funniest thing is, all of us are singles. Even some of them are older than me. We can laugh and joke to our hearts content. Eating to our hearts content too at a favorite buffet. The point is, we’re having fun, enjoying ourselves as who we are. Undefined by whether you have “tails” or not, whether you have six digits salary or not, whether you have engagement/wedding ring or not.

Why is it that fun?

First, before I am going to be someone’s friend/girlfriend/fiancee/wife, I am a human being.

Second, after being a human being, I am a woman.

Third, I don’t have any ‘unofficial-obligation’ explaining to someone why I don’t want to spend my precious Saturday nite with that person.

Fourth, I can go out wear anything I like, I don’t need to be worry about what I am going to wear.

Fifth, I don’t have any obligation answering an unexpected phone call from someone wondering where I am now. Hell, pai tuo ni la….puhhleaseee. You know, it’s like you put a mentally chain around my neck. Stop being 2nd Hitler.

Sixth, I am are free to do anything on my own. Things that are still within my boundaries and principles, say no for alcohol + cigarettes. Real woman take care their body well.

Seventh, I dont’ even acknowledged that person as my “something”.

Seriously, at time like this, where women have ability to empower themselves, you are still trapped in some kind of hallucination world that you control every step, every words, every acts of your woman. Why don’t you ask Barbie to be your woman? Talk to my hand. Want to know why spending my precious time with you is not appealing to me? Well, because even working sounds more enchanting than that.

This is what a woman wants…
Any man of mine better be proud of me
Even when I’m ugly he still better love me
And I can be late for a date that’s fine
But he better be on time

Any man of mine’ll say it fits just right
When last year’s dress is just a little too tight
And anything I do or say better be okay
When I have a bad hair day

And if I change my mind
A million times
I wanna hear him say
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah I like it that way

Any man of mine better walk the line
Better show me a teasin’ squeezin’ pleasin’ kinda time
I need a man who knows, how the story goes
He’s gotta be a heartbeatin’ fine treatin’
Breathtakin’ earthquakin’ kind
Any man of mine

Well any man of mine better disagree
When I say another woman’s lookin’ better than me
And when I cook him dinner and I burn it black
He better say, mmmm, I like it like that yeah

And if I changed my mind
A million times
I wanna hear him say
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah I like it that way

Any man of mine better walk the line
Better show me a teasin’ squeezin’ pleasin’ kinda time
I need a man who knows, how the story goes
He’s gotta be a heartbeatin’ fine treatin’
Breathtakin’ earthquakin’ kind
Any man of mine

Let me hear you say yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah I like it that way

Any man of mine better walk the line
Better show me a teasin’ squeezin’ pleasin’ kinda time
I need a man who knows, how the story goes
He’s gotta be a heartbeatin’ fine treatin’
Breathtakin’ earthquakin’ kind
Any man of mine

You gotta shimmy shake
Make the earth quake
Kick, turn, stomp, stomp, then you jump
Heel to toe, Do Si Do
‘Til your boots wanna break
“Til your feet and your back ache
Keep it movin’ ’til you just can’t take anymore
Come on everybody on the floor
A-one two, a-three four
Hup two, hum
If you wanna be a man of mine, that’s right
This is what a woman wants…

And I don’t accept less than that

Quoted from Han Jeong Won @ Twinkle-Twinkle: “Omma, Can I just skip the marriage and have children directly?” LOL…… get my vote for that JeongWon…Lup you, girl.

In waiting mode for the purple rose.


That’s what A Sister is for

Posted in Thoughts on March 24, 2011 by altins

Cie : Ada sahabat yang sedang sangat berbahagia karena Cinta.. Disisi lain ada sahabat yang sedang sangat menderita, juga karena Cinta.. Oh Cinta, mengapa kau harus ada…??

Mei : hahaha…simple thing sist, for everything, there are two sides of everything, the joy and the hurt, the good and the bad, the right and the wrong. Because if there is no hurt, how come you know what the joy is, if there is no good, you will never know what the bad is, and if there is no wrong, how come you know what the right thing to do.

Like a coin, there are two sides of it.
Like our brother said, “minimal musti 2 arah” (in order to view everything).
Like you once said, “Kenapa kita tahu Lala itu baik, karena ada BomBom yang kelakuannya selalu jahat?” (taken from sinetron Bidadari…lol)

And then a question pops in my head, Why? Why we need two sides of everything, and the answer pops the next second, because the two sides will create the balance. Next thought in my head, “balance”, just like my sign, right, the libra, hahaha.

Next thought…
Now, the problem is, which side do you prefer? Of course everyone choose the good side, the fun side, but remember too much of a good thing is not a good thing, hahaha….

So in the end, whether love brings you hurt or happiness, embrace those feelings and be grateful for that, including the hurt, yeap, including the hurt.


Cie : why your words so inspiring lately, sist? Yes, sometimes I just focus on bad things and forget about all the good things, yeah… As you know me so well, I think I need to brainstorming about many things with you, dear! 😉

Mei : *lately….hmmm…

I think I always “enlighten” you…hahaha….
It’s just that we haven’t talked like we usually did in “ages”….

It’s just that entering the year 2011, I feel so blessed and content, learning to count what I already have instead of what I don’t have, learning to be grateful with any kind of experiences that I got for the 25 years of my life, the good, the bad and the worst. And somehow, I found out, it’s in the worst times that I “sharpen my knife” and become a better me, and along that road, so many people I met, I helped and helped me in return, whether they came as friends, families, or rivalries.

And even if a genie appear in front of me and offer me to change one single event in my life, gladly I can answer that there is no, not even a single event in my life that I want to change. hehehe.

Sigh, indeed it feels like ages we don’t talk like we used to do.

Cie : Sist, reading your message looked like I’m talking to you directly, somehow made me sad and miss you more than before.. Yeah, I miss those moments. Talking and talking and talking our own experiences all day long over midnight. Sometimes I talked and you’re sleeping. Sometimes you shared then I’m snoring.. 😛 I love you, my only sister and the best one! :’)


“She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent. She is your sister.”

“This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends – they’ll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything – they’re your true best friends. Don’t let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them – actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soul mate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.” – Marilyn Monroe

HomeSick level 9.9

Posted in Feelings on March 11, 2011 by altins

She said, “eat properly,”

and whisper in her heart, “you must take care of your health on your own, I am not there with you.”

She said, “have enough sleep,”

and whisper in her heart, “so you won’t get sick, since I won’t be able to take care of you there.”

She said, “keep praying,”

and whisper in her heart, “and me too, I still pray for you, my grown-up daughter.”

She said, “don’t work too hard,”

and whisper in her heart, “if it cost you your health, I don’t want the money.”

And I whisper,

Thank you for delivering me to this world

Thank you for being there as my pillar of support

Thank you for being my biggest fan

Thank you for letting me go and help me stand on my own feet

Thank you for putting wings on my back and let me fly

Thank you for being my partner in pray

Thank you for being you

Thank you for being my mom

Someone said to me, “Wow, your mom must be proud of you!”

I think she’s wrong, it should be, “Wow, you must be proud being the daughter of your mother.”

Because it’s not me who is Jjang…

It’s you…..

uri Omma….

It’s you….

you’re JJANG!

Cross my mind

Posted in Thoughts on March 9, 2011 by altins

In celebration of my-four-months in SG…

– Salary up four times … good thing!!!!

– Working time up One and a half times … bring it on!!

– The project complexity three times up  ( the beauty of B2B world + semiconductor industry ) … uhm..make that four times up

– Two times down amount of time for blogging … dang!!

– Increment of  acute-needs-for-blood-circulation-to-the brain, 3 times up

– Increment in body weight, 0.16 times up … OH NO!!!!

– Three times down amount of time for watching KDrama …. this is a curse…….

Sigh….Dear Lord, can I have 60 hours a day…? Please… Jebal!!…